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I’ve been a little worried about my mother lately. Whenever I visit her now, prescription she seems so desperate to go out. She tells me how she doesn’t like it there and the food tastes terrible. I stopped by to visit and bring her some flowers the other day, sales but all she wanted to do was go out for a ride. I had other plans and couldn’t take her this time. I tried to explain but she wouldn’t hear of it. Finally, all I could do was tell her I would be back, kiss her goodbye and leave. It broke my heart, but I had not choice. I went back yesterday, and took her out for a hot fudge sunday. She enjoyed it so much. Afterwards I took her home with me and along the way she asked me who I was. “Are you my sister? My mother? My aunt?” When we got to my house, we spent the whole day talking about family and when she lived in Honey Brook. I showed her the Amish doll I bought for the store. I knew she would like seeing it. She talked about when she made dolls and how my father would help her stuff them. “He would stuff them so hard”, she said. I went upstairs and brought down these three dolls and took this photo. The one in the middle is the first doll she made in 1984. Later we did some cooking together, but she wasn’t able to stand very long so she sat down and watched me. Afterwards I gave her a manicure. It was a good day and one that I will always remember. On the way home she asked, “how old am I?” “Ninety”, I said. “oh, no, that can’t be. How old are you?”

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I’ll be going back today. I’ll be taking her to her doctor’s appointment. I know she’ll be anxiously awaiting, but second thought she might not remember at all. Think Spring! These little baby rabbits were in my garden a couple of years ago. Maybe this year I’ll have more.
HAPPY DAY
Carole

8 Responses to “”

  1. Martha Says:

    Hi, thanks for stopping by my blog and your nice comment regarding my home, but I would trade places, your house is my dream home, I have always wanted to live in a really old house with all antiques or a new house made to look really old!
    Your Mom is sweet, when I read what you wrote I wanted to cry, she sounds so much like my Mom did. The last year of my mother’s life she became very confused at times and started speaking French, she was born in Canada, I was happy I understood most of it, she had seemed to forget her English, she would speak English for a bit and then go back to French. We onced lived on a farm and she thought at times that was where she was, not the nursing home. Those days were so bittersweet, she made me laugh and cry. . .and I miss her still.
    Wishing you a wonderful weekend, and I love your Mom’s dolls, so sweet you still have them.
    Martha

  2. Sandy Says:

    Your mom sounds so much like my mom. She sometimes asks me who is the man in her wedding picture. I tell her it’s Dad & then I ask if she knows who the woman is & she says “my mother?”. No mom, that’s you. I feel guilty every time I leave her assisted living facility. That’s me with the little guilt cloud over my Catholic head.

  3. Carole Says:

    Dear Martha and Sandy, Both of your stories touched my heart and I appreciate that you shared them on my blog.
    Carole

  4. Jackie Says:

    Carole,
    I hope today is a much better day for you and your mom! What i read made me deeply sad. To better day ahead.
    Still Love your blog,
    Jackie
    Plain-n-Simple!

  5. Sandra Says:

    Good Morning Carole, Each of us have to do what’s best for everyone and the situation. Dave’s mother passed away last November, she lived with us for years and had dementia. Yes, it was difficult, and we loved hard and fought hard -smile-. But it was right for us and our family. But. No one knows how difficult tending to a person with dementia is unless they’ve done it. Give your mother as many good days as you can, make as many good memories for yourself as you can; those things you’ll never regret.

  6. Carole Says:

    I so much appreciate hearing from everyone that cares enough, and takes the time to leave a comment on my blog. It’s nice to hear from new friends too, so thank you Sandra for stopping by, and taking time out of your busy farm day to leave such a nice comment. I want to go back to your blog and read more.
    Take care.
    Carole

  7. Carole Says:

    Jackie, please do not be sad. I am blessed to have my mother at age 91 this June. Thank you for your concern, I appreciate that very much.
    Carole

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