A Day Out With My Mother


I have an 89 year old mother that lives in the memory care unit in a very lovely facility. She suffers from dementia. She does quite well, seek actually. She stilll remembers most things, physician but it’s the short term memory that is affected. Recently, healing they suggested that she be moved to another place, one that can offer more care. This happened over the past week, and of course, it was difficult for her and for me. This past Friday, I took her over to see her new place, and to meet the new staff. She didn’t want to stay. She said, “can we go now”? I had to explain that this was her home now. “Don’t they want me at the other place”, she said. “Can’t they take care of me? Can’t I live with you? Let’s get a soda, an ice cream soda, at the drug store”. I explained everything again. I told her I would be here every day. That it was a better place for her. Better people, and closer to where I lived. I told her that I would make her room look beautiful and cozy, just the way she likes it. She could help me and tell me where she wanted her pictures hung. The next day we did that, and she loved it. I knew she was feeling much better about things. “Oh, it looks so pretty. Oh, Carole, what would I do without you”, she said. I could see that she was going to be just fine. It’s been 5 days now, and I am happy to say that, she has adjusted very well, and I am feeling more comfortable now, and I feel that she is in a good place. I took her out for a drive yesterday, to look at the changing leaves. She loves that. Then we stopped and got some Tastykake chocolate cupcakes at the Wawa. She loves that too!! LOL We went back to my house. I sat her down in the kitchen, while I got a plate for the cupcakes. She was so cute, when I asked her if she wanted some milk to go with them, she said, do you have any chocolate to put in it? I sure do, I said. We went out on the sunporch and I put my DVD on, Early America. She has always been so interested in my businesses, and especially loved seeing all the photos I would take on my day trips. I knew she would enjoy seeing the DVD, with all the photos, and the beautiful music. While it was playing, I noticed her little foot tapping to the music. It warmed my heart, and made me smile. I knew she was having a nice day. After about 20 min., I realized it wasa getting close to dinner time, and it was time to get her back, I didn’t want her to miss dinner. We got in the car, and she looked at me and said, I hope i can come back and see the rest of that movie some time. Yes, of course you can, mother. Soon, I promise, I said. She was happy to get back, and sit down to her dinner. As I was leaving, one of the staff said to me, you take such good care of your mother. Well, she always took such good care of me, now it’s my turn to look after her, I said.

10 Responses to “A Day Out With My Mother”

  1. ka buffington Says:

    I have Seasons at Seven Gates and have saved every article I’ve seen regarding Seven Gates. As a fan of James and Dean I’m very happy that Carole shared pictures of James’ display at the Beaver Valley Antique Mall.

    Thanks so much Carole for the sharing of these and all the pictures you so kindly share!

  2. Christe' Says:

    dear Carole,

    how very blessed you both are, you & your momma,
    to have each other.

  3. Carole Says:

    Ka, when I know they are enjoyed, that’s my pleasure. i appreciate your comment, and Christe’, you know I am always happy to hear from you. You are right, I am so blessed to still have my mother.

  4. Jeannene Says:

    this brought tears to my eyes. You are so sweet to your mother and she is very lucky, well…i should say; “she raised a very outstanding, remarkable lovely lady such as yourself.” I can see were you got your beautiful looks and gentle nature, just by the picture of the two of you. “You are very special Carole, i truly thank God for you!!”

  5. Carole Says:

    Jeannene, you always say such nice things to me. I do get a little red in the face though. Thank you for being so kind.

  6. Sandy Says:

    I felt like I was reading about myself & my 92 yr old mom. She had her own home up till 3 yrs ago when she started falling & got some dementia. Then she moved in with us for 3 yrs & again got very ill. Now she is in an assisted living facility that is like a fancy hotel which she loves. They take such good care of her. It was getting so hard for me. She now has more friends her own age & her dementia & health has improved 100%. I try to visit every other day if I can. Love to you & your mom. Sandy

  7. Pamela Overmier Says:

    Carole, I was wondering how your mom was getting along, and now I have the answer! I’m so happy you are enjoying her twilight years, and you ARE a wonderful daughter! HUGS, Pam

  8. Louise Says:

    Carole, I loved seeing that photo of you and your mom!!
    I’m so glad to see her looking happy and well.
    You are such a special, caring daughter.
    Much love,

  9. Martha Says:

    I just read this portion of your blog and my mind was flooded with memories of my mother. I would bring her to my house to visit, she never liked going back to the nursing home. Sometimes I would take her out for ice cream at a cute little ice cream place not far from the nursing home, she told me how she loved my flower gardens but did not understand why I did not let her go inside my house, I tried to explain to her that it was an ice cream parlor, not my home, when she became confused I had to learn how to change the subject and not upset her. I miss her!
    Martha ♥

  10. carole holt Says:

    Martha, what a sweet and touching story. i hope I didn’t make you too sad remembering that. It’s hard to see this happen to our mother, isn’t it? I agree, I don’t ever want to upset my mother either by letting her know how confused she can get.
    sending you a hug

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